How to deal with complainers?

So you’re at work and exactly 10 ‘o clock your co-worker starts rattling on and on about how difficult life is for her (or him!). Familiar situation? Now the question is, how do we deal with these terrible complainers? I have some ideas, and to help you out I’ll share some of my secrets with you.

 1. Remain detached

Just don’t get irritated over the complainer. Hear their voices as a background noise and it will not even bother you.

 2. Don’t give in

Never ever ever say ‘you’re always complaining’. This my friend, will just trigger the complainer to complain even more and think it’s justified to do so.

 3. Change the subject

Do this very smoothly. If the complainer is talking about all the work they have to do, you say that he/she handles it very well. This immediately will create a positive vibe and hopefully will push the complainer to talk positively.

 4. Try to encourage them

If nothing works, try to encourage your complainer to have a more positive attitude. That not everything in life is bad and that there are people who have it much worse.

I’ve to admit, there has been a time I was the complainer and everything could get so negative around me. Luckily I discovered that life is a beautiful journey if you choose to see the bright sight of life. I know, I know the song popped up in your head. Maybe it helps to listen to it, take a deep breath and try these tips on the complainer(s) in your life. Good luck and till next time.